After hitting rock bottom a few times you start to think you've learned all your lessons and don't need to end up there again.
If you're anything like me, you're probably wrong. Lol.
I hit rock bottom in my finances and my mental health mainly, but they affected almost all of the other areas in my life.
Normally rock bottom for me means trying to ignore it and drag myself through until it's over. Both times that I've done that (once in 2010 and once in 2015.. guess I hit rock bottom every 5 years lmao), it's lasted about 2-3 years.
Who wants to be at rock bottom for 2-3 YEARS???
I'm only realizing this now in retrospect, but I unintentionally did not repeat my old habits.
Instead of dragging myself through and waiting for it to be over, I intentionally stepped away from social media, did the absolute bare minimum to keep my business running, cut out everything and everyone that I couldn't give my energy to (bc I literally didn't have anything to give) and let myself go through it.
It lasted 6 months. & it was really frustrating bc I felt unbelievably helpless.
There was nothing I could do to speed it up, there was no extra energy leftover to give to my business or social media or people outside of the tiny tiny circle of people in my life.
But miraculously, I started to heal. Things were finally quiet enough in my life to actually hear and be guided by my intuition. My relationships with the people closest to me became 10000x closer. My business ideas started coming back. My inspiration came back. My desire to do a morning routine came back. Everything I truly needed flooded back.
I realize now that every rock bottom I've hit in my life has been nothing more than preparation for something much greater than I would've ever been able to even dream of achieving had I not gone through those situations.
So if you're going through it, this is probably the LAST thing you want to hear, but consider rock bottom the universe's greatest compliment.
You have been chosen to learn a lesson so large that you needed to be broken down and re-built, probably more than once.
If I can offer any advice, to anyone going through this (and to my future self when I will eventually go through it again in another area of my life), it’s to honor this phase of your life, give yourself grace and patience to go through it, and always always look for the lessons (I promise they’re there!!!)
I’d love to hear anything you feel called to share about your own experience hitting rock bottom, what worked and what didn’t work, & what lessons you found from that experience.
I love you all 🤍 thank you for your vulnerability and your acceptance of my vulnerability.
Aadventures with Aaron ✈